What draws women closer

its 23:57 pm sunday 20/11/05 and am sleepy as hell(why is everything compared to hell...)
anyway i thot i should pen something down because i have a memory like a
filter and so much has happened this weekend....
I have laptop with me in bed and i feel like that chick in sex and the city, writing about
her weekend escapades..though mine will definately not be as "exciting" as hers...

first off, i must say there are three things that bring women together (there could be
more or less) but here is what i think, three things that bring women together, i.e bring
them closer 1)issues (problems) caused by men 2)issues about men
3) some krap that indirectly has to do with no 1) and 2)
(which by the way are hardly different..but those are details..).

In a previous post, I related how i was discontent with a friendship that i thought is
superficial..it is and there is no doubt about that and each day my feelings are reinforced
...but my friend whom we called Rose has just been thru a tough couple of months
(yes issues caused by men...)and just when things seemed to have settled down
and she was moving on , some serious stuff (no 3) above) just erupted this weekend...
basically it has brought us closer...
her/our distress is the result of a major case of slander...and it is my opinion that
someone somewhere of the fairer sex conjured some lies to ruin her already
frail reputation so that the man who she may/may not be seeing may leave her...women..
we are our worst enemy..and so stoopid...
but Rose just like her name, is sweet,delicate,brave and so strong...stronger than
i will ever be...this past couple of months she/we has/have been through
some really awful stuff but she didnt cry even a single time...(i did, more than once)
but today i saw her breakdown for the very first time...
any hope of us establishing that missing spiritual connection (the bond of bonds in any
type of relationship)was shattered by this...she is/was ready to give up on any spirituality
that she has because on the surface,it seems it is the cause of her problems,
yet it isnt, her spirituality is what will give her /us
the strength to get through these tough times...i told her as much, in addition to the fact
that we will get through this...but sometimes,some things hit people where it hurts most
when they are most vulnerable and the blow is sometimes dealt by the worst possible
person(enemy)...recipe for depression...

something that lingered in my mind throughout the whole ordeal was, will we be close only
during tough times...am i a friend only suitable for times of distress...
i am not going to force issues,if thats the kind of friendship(read co-existense)
that this is, well i guess there are different types
and i guess this one is what it is...i can only be there for her...

i cant remember what else i wanted to write...right now i am so sleepy...