Superficiallity..
women are a complicated species...and a very superficial lot
My second year in campus was an eye opener... being naive and
nice i thought if you treat people - no, people you regard as
your friends well,give them your time and shoulder,etc, they
may reciprocate.. boy was i in for a rude lesson, i realised
people (ok let me say women) are selfish, superficial and
sterotypical (3 S's)...and they only do things for you only
if they stand to benefit or if they had nothing else to do with
their time... let me put it simplisticlly... they will give you
cake if they are full or they dont like the cake..
not because they are being kind...
From my second year in campus i withdrew and by the time i was
finishing campus i was more or less a loner..who spent most of her
time in her room watching episodes of 24....
So i am wary of making friendships, i hate superficial friendships
they are such a waste of time....
Thank you for bearing with me till this point..there is a point...
I have a friend, we shall call her Rose, we spend alot of our free
time together but we just hang out...our friendship is so
superficial and for the amount of time i spend time with her,i dont
really know her...and when i try to, she gives me another look that
says , "no entry beyond this point"...sometimes i think she is
incapable of deep communication.....
sad to say,everyone thinks we are close, we are not..
but they say it takes two to tango, maybe i am part of the problem..
indeed i am , i am scared to open up..and i dont do a good job of
communicating but i know at one point i tried..but somewhere along
the way i gave up and i said i am happy to leave this friendship
at a superficial level if she is...i cant do this alone..
needless to say i have reduced the amount of time that i spend
with her..selfish..yes it is...
Perhaps at the heart of the problem is that i have another friend..
you could call her my closest friend...we are completely open and
we have no fear, no embarassment..so intune with our feelings...
deep communication...so maybe i was hoping it would be something
like that, so i was wrong , wrong to compare, however i dont think
my feelings are wrong, i have several friends , different, but we
all communicate...in different ways..
i hate superficial friendships....
My second year in campus was an eye opener... being naive and
nice i thought if you treat people - no, people you regard as
your friends well,give them your time and shoulder,etc, they
may reciprocate.. boy was i in for a rude lesson, i realised
people (ok let me say women) are selfish, superficial and
sterotypical (3 S's)...and they only do things for you only
if they stand to benefit or if they had nothing else to do with
their time... let me put it simplisticlly... they will give you
cake if they are full or they dont like the cake..
not because they are being kind...
From my second year in campus i withdrew and by the time i was
finishing campus i was more or less a loner..who spent most of her
time in her room watching episodes of 24....
So i am wary of making friendships, i hate superficial friendships
they are such a waste of time....
Thank you for bearing with me till this point..there is a point...
I have a friend, we shall call her Rose, we spend alot of our free
time together but we just hang out...our friendship is so
superficial and for the amount of time i spend time with her,i dont
really know her...and when i try to, she gives me another look that
says , "no entry beyond this point"...sometimes i think she is
incapable of deep communication.....
sad to say,everyone thinks we are close, we are not..
but they say it takes two to tango, maybe i am part of the problem..
indeed i am , i am scared to open up..and i dont do a good job of
communicating but i know at one point i tried..but somewhere along
the way i gave up and i said i am happy to leave this friendship
at a superficial level if she is...i cant do this alone..
needless to say i have reduced the amount of time that i spend
with her..selfish..yes it is...
Perhaps at the heart of the problem is that i have another friend..
you could call her my closest friend...we are completely open and
we have no fear, no embarassment..so intune with our feelings...
deep communication...so maybe i was hoping it would be something
like that, so i was wrong , wrong to compare, however i dont think
my feelings are wrong, i have several friends , different, but we
all communicate...in different ways..
i hate superficial friendships....
posted by Athena at November 16, 2005
1 Comments:
I have been known to refer to women as 'evil' on occassion, mostly because of the way they relate to one another. Perhaps it's some innate trait designed to get the best mate that then transcends this purpose. Women tend to be their worst enemy, and I am yet to understand the psyche that drives this phenomenon.
I agree with you about not persisting in superficial relationships. I realised some time back that I have very few friends. Now I know that that's not a bad thing necessarily.
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